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What to Do With Your High Standards

Anyone old enough to have had any sort of life experience will tell you that you will get to a certain point in your mid-to-late 20s where people around you will begin to question your life choices – that is if they haven’t already. Questions will range from the timing of your masters and eventual PhD degree, to the number of kids you plan on having, and the exact number of years you plan on having between them. If you happen to, like me, fall into the category of ‘still single’ during these blessed years, the situation will spiral downwards fairly quickly. Your parents’ narrative will go from, ‘Focus on your studies’, and ‘Don’t waste your time with boys who will waste your time’ to ‘Stop being so picky’ in the blink of an eye, and without any forewarning whatsoever. One moment, they loved you and wanted your well-being, and…

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Dana’s Story: Faith, Marriage and Motherhood (Pt. 2)

At this point in the conversation we were joined by a teething Ava as we discussed what it’s like watching Ava grow, meeting her husband Alex, and how they have gone on to grow in faith as a family. So, I know from reading your blog that you had two losses before having Ava – I can imagine that finding out you were pregnant yet again must have been a difficult experience to say the least. Do you think there was a moment when you really exhaled? When you put your fears aside and said, ‘this is going to be OK – she’s going to be OK.’? Gosh, I think my exhale moment with Ava was when she was born. It was such a long drawn out thing – I was actually in the hospital for a while before she came. Because I had lost two pregnancies before her, I…

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Seeking Mr. Christian

This one is for the ladies guys, but of course, feel free to read on 🙂 “I want a God-fearing man!” said almost every Christian woman everywhere when asked what she’s looking for in a future partner. I definitely say it all the time myself… but have we ever really sat down and bothered to ask ourselves why? Why DO we want God-fearing men in our lives? Is it because we actually want to build a godly legacy with said man? Or is it because we think they are more likely to treat us right and less likely to cheat? *mic drop* Yea, I said it lol. As crazy as it is, I think it really is more of the latter than the former! We want a prudent man who will be patient and kind and caring, and provide for his family and be faithful – but really, you could…

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Confessions of a Commitment-Phobe

It's that time of year again when everything turns red and we are bombarded with messaging telling us that the key to happiness is a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers from the person we love. Of course, if happiness had a physical manifestation, I couldn't imagine it BEING anything other than chocolate and flowers, so I'll let Consumerism have this one. Being single, I'd love to jump on the 'I hate Valentine's Day' train, but that would be a lie. I love Val's day. While all the red and pink does kind of make my head spin, I do not remotely hate the idea of having a day where someone I love goes out of their way to treat me extra special. I am actually a sucker for chocolate - and don't even get me started on flowers. I love all the mushy, gushy, emo stuff (though you'd probably...Continue reading
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Relationship Advice Quarterly

You have to be friends with a dude/chick before you even think about relationships. This is the best advice my uncle ever gave me – he’s so quirky but gives the absolute best relationship advice: Be friends with a guy. Don’t be in a rush to get him to lock you down. Talk about random things. Fight. Tell him what he does that annoys you. Annoy him and see how he responds lol. Friendship allows you to assess how someone would act in high pressure situations without the risk.  We have become a generation of women that have followed Beyonce down this ‘if you like it put a ring on it’ path and pressuring men to jump into relationships ten seconds after we meet them, ‘or else’. But where they do that at???? You realize Beyonce and Jay dated for like a Bazillion years before he proposed? And even in…

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in Dear Diary, Faith

When Are You getting Married?

I finally got asked. I thought I could escape the question for a while more – being the last-but-one grandchild on my Father’s side and all. My aunties had other plans. “So… when are you also getting married?” “Who me? I have been asking myself the same question. I’ll let you know when I figure out the answer!” I reply sarcastically. “So there’s no one special?” “Nope.” “Do you want me to introduce you to some people?” “Nooooope!” “Then that means there must be someone you have in mind!” “Errrr…. no. Not actually.” *Ghanaian aunty face of disbelief*  I have to admit, her logic was socially sound. If I don’t have a man, and I’m not looking for a man, then there must be a man in mind, right??  Wrong.  My own response kind of surprised me though! I used to be what my sister calls a ‘serial relationshipist’. Out one relationship,…

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The Build-A-Man Workshop

Welcome, Ladies, to the Build-A-Man Workshop – where you can create your Perfect Man simply with the click of a few buttons! Let me tell you how it works: First,  our state-of-the-art Man Generator will ask you a series of questions to ascertain what it is you want your Man to look like. Green eyes? Long hair? Maybe you’re into man buns? Beards? Do you want him six-foot-four, athletic build, and with a dashing smile? We’ve got you covered!  Next, tell us what attributes you want in a man – you name it, we can make it. Faithfulness and Kindness are our top picks, but we also offer Generosity, Sense of Humor, Passion, Confidence (with a dash of Cockiness), Dependability, among many, many others.  Of course, what would your Perfect Man be without his accessories? A six-figure job, a 2016 Porsche, a royal lineage, and good taste in clothing are just a few…

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Conversations with God

Sometimes I still feel like I have to monitor God in some aspects of my life lol I say: “God- can we collaborate on this life thing? Can I give you suggestions about what I want this to look like? Tell you what would work best for me?” And He gives me the side-eye, laughs, and shakes His head. “Child, you had the reigns, and look at where it got you!” He says. “ But,” I protest, “I just need you to know some things about me… you know, my preferences and what-not” “Really?” He chuckles. “Like what? Pray tell.” “Well… like, in terms of the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want him to be-” “Wait-” God interjects “Let me get a pen!” He feigns a search for a writing instrument. I frown, but He smiles. “Continue” He says. “I’m listening.” “Well…” I…

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