in Devotions, Lifestyle

Confessions of a Commitment-Phobe

It's that time of year again when everything turns red and we are bombarded with messaging telling us that the key to happiness is a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers from the person we love. Of course, if happiness had a physical manifestation, I couldn't imagine it BEING anything other than chocolate and flowers, so I'll let Consumerism have this one. Being single, I'd love to jump on the 'I hate Valentine's Day' train, but that would be a lie. I love Val's day. While all the red and pink does kind of make my head spin, I do not remotely hate the idea of having a day where someone I love goes out of their way to treat me extra special. I am actually a sucker for chocolate - and don't even get me started on flowers. I love all the mushy, gushy, emo stuff (though you'd probably...Continue reading
in Dear Diary, Nuggets

Just a Few Thoughts I Had Today…

A lot of women (myself/ past self included) have sex before they’re actually ready and outside of the context of marriage because we have fallen prey to the cultural norm that relationships=sex. Like, if you have a man, you have to have sex to please/keep him or maintain the relationship. Like there can be no relationship without sex. Somehow sex has become synonymous with commitment. It’s such a lie. A lot of men get into relationships not because they actually want one or are ready for it but because relationships give them a pseudo-legitimate avenue to regular sex. Think about it: you can either hustle around every weekend hoping it will ‘tomu’ with some chick you meet and score for the night, or you can tell some girl ‘I love you’ and have a steady supply any time you feel like it – and THEN some on the side. Sex…

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