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How Do I Read the Bible?

Hi, I don’t know how to read my bible. I do devotionals that reference bible verses but I want to actually read the Bible. Where do I start?

Hey love!
There are a lot of different ways to read the Bible, but Devotionals are a great place to start. I’d suggest starting off by reading for context. So when you read those Bible verses that come with the devotionals, read the entire chapter as well. Figure out what exactly the writer wanted to say.
The second way I’d suggest reading it is chronologically – at the beginning. There’s a reason the Bible is in the order it’s in – it tells a story. So start at the beginning and work your way through to the end.

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25 Random Facts About Me

It just occurred to me the other day that many people probably have no idea who I am – and it probably doesn’t help that the ‘About Me’ page isn’t really about ME lol. It probably stems from the fact that I hate talking about myself/self-promotion (took me forever to jump on the hashtag bandwagon), but I think it’s only fair that you get to know more about me than the things I struggle with every day.
So here it goes!

I am 26 and the youngest of four kids. By far. My twin brothers and sister are a year apart, and I showed up 6 years later. I joked once to my father that I was clearly the ‘mistake baby’.

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I’m bad at hearing God speak I think. Everyone says listen . He’s there. You’ll hear him. But I can’t seem to! Look, I’ve been praying and asking God to speak to me. But I can’t hear Him. What do I have to do? It’s so frustrating. And I’m bad at picking up signs . So if it’s through a book or person . Maybe I’ve missed it. Can’t he appear in a dream? Why is there this barrier? Why can’t I hear Him.

Well love, first off, know that God is always speaking. We’re either not listening or don’t know how to tune in. If I gave you a radio but you didn’t know how to turn it on or how to tune into the station you wanted to listen to, doesn’t mean you or the radio is broken. It just means you need a little more information 🙂
The first step to hearing God is to understand what He ‘sounds’ like. You have to recognize His ‘voice’.
‘Hearing’ God isn’t always what you think. Hearing isn’t always an audible voice – actually it rarely is. Hearing God can be that feeling of peace about a decision. it can be an open door – or a closed one.

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Hi . This might seem like a very weird question. But is there anywhere in the bible that talks about “if someone wants to be there for you, you don’t have to force or try for their attention?” I’m asking this because, I and my be are going through a rough stage. He asked for space for awhile. And promised to be back. He’s going through some stuff and wants to be alone. But gave me his word and assurance that he was coming right back for me. Now here’s the issue, I believe he’s the one for meand I admit I might have pushed him farther away with my constant nagging . I have apologised and shown how truly sorry I am. But he wants space for now. So I’m doing the only thing I believe works. Praying. I’ve been praying like crazy, because this is whom I really want to spend the rest of my life with. I’m not growing any younger. I’m 25. But the more I pray, doubt creeps in . And then human logic where I start thinking about all these quotes and sayings from “relationship experts” talking about you can’t force someone to be with you bla bla. You know the quotes I’m talking about. So I am just trying to find out from someone who knows the bible pretty well, if there’s anywhere in the bible that talks about forcing yourself on people. This kind of stuff. Because deep down I believe God doesn’t work with what people have said. He does the uncommon. Unexplainable. So I’m trusting Him. But I just need to know if there’s anywhere in the bible that talks about that, maybe so I feel a lot better when praying and not to feel like those relationship experts are actually right. I’m just praying for a miracle. Divine intervention. Anything. I’ve never been so sure about anything . But there’s that little voice that keeps saying, you are wasting your time. He’s not coming back. 😪

Hey Love,
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Relationships can be one heck of an emotional roller coaster. As I read your question this verse popped in my head from Song of Solomon 8:4:
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem,
not to awaken love until the time is right.
There is a time for everything. And even if you know in your heart of hearts that it is meant to be, doesn’t mean it’s the right time. When it comes to God and trust and timing, you have to constantly be in chill mode. You have to learn to hold on to things loosely.

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How do you overcome depression and suicidal thoughts. I’ve cried. That was my prayer because I couldn’t get the words out. I have no one to talk to. I don’t think anyone will understand what I’m going through. I am tired

Hey love,
These questions are honestly always the hardest for me to answer. For one, I suffered (and sometimes still do suffer) from bouts of depression, and I know sometimes the words of people can be really empty in that state, and I never want to give people empty words. But here’s the advice I can give you, and I hope you will take it as coming from someone who understands what you’re going through and wants you to be healed and whole:
1. Ask for help. Depression and being suicidal are serious issues and if you are not in the state of mind to be in control of your own well-being, you need someone to do it for you.

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It’s not easy being an adult! I made the switch from daddypendent to independent about 6 months ago & it’s not a joke at all! I just got paid & I was drawing up budgets for shopping (YAASSSS) & bills & other things then realized I forgot about my tithe… Bruh! Anyway, I’m not as “rich” as I thought & shopping will have to wait until later. The struggle is real but diaris God lol!

Bruuuuuh lmao.
It’s too real. I’ve been independent for 8 years now and I can’t say I’ve completely gotten used to taking care of myself. There are still days I wish I could call Daddy up and solicit funds lol.
But you know, even on those days when it feels like my paycheck is spread real thin, or the future looks bleak, I never once think of reneging on my commitment to God with tithe, so I love how you chose to defer shopping till later. It’s not an easy choice to make in a world that says everything we earn is ours and for our sole benefit.

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How do I deal with my strong sexual urges as a christian teen trying to save myself for marriage?

Such a great question!
I think when you’re trying to keep yourself for marriage or be celibate and you’re dealing with strong sexual urges, the first thing you need to do is understand them. What brings those urges on? Is it a conversation you’re having with a certain someone? Or a show you watch? Or the kind of conversations you entertain? I’ve had guys tell me I’m the worst flirt, because there are just some conversations I just cannot entertain at this point lol.

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What are your thoughts on celibacy?

I think I’ve touched on my views of celibacy here and there, but I probably haven’t ever explicitly stated what they are.
What does celibacy look like? Well it differs from person to person. I’ve seen couples who don’t even hold hands before marriage. Yes, that may seem crazy to you and me, but the Bible says if your right arm causes you to sin, chop it off, because it’s useless to you. When deciding to be celibate, you have to analyze yourself, look at past experiences, and learn from the habits/wrong choices that caused you to get into sexual situations. If you wanted to bone your ex every time he/she held your hand, then yea- Maybe you shouldn’t hold hands lol.

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Could you get a help me with some bible chapters or verses About how to get over a guy you really really need to get over? Lol. Okay memory verses about loneliness will do I think

I actually laughed out loud when I read this.
Girl, the age old struggle of getting over someone. I am so skilled in this art – maybe even TOO skilled haha. I haven’t been in too many relationships but I am the girl who is in a committed relationship with you in my mind and you don’t even know it, so I’ve had a lot of pseudo breakups and opportunities to have to get over people LOL.
But here’s the best advice I can give you:
Nine times out of ten, it’s not you, it’s God.