Are you free? As Christians, we ought to be. Paul tells us in Acts 13:38-39: So let it be clearly known and understood by you, brethren, that through this Man [Jesus] forgiveness and removal of sins is now proclaimed to you; And that through Him everyone who believes [who acknowledges Jesus as his Savior and devotes himself to Him] is absolved (cleared and freed) from every charge from which he could not be justified and freed by the Law of Moses and given right standing with God. But the Bible also says something quite interesting in Galatians 5:1: It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. A bit of tautology, it might seem, but I’ve found that it’s when Paul makes the least sense that he’s really saying the most profound things lol. The Holman Christian Standard Bible puts it this way: Christ has liberated us to be free. While the words…Continue reading
Hello, I am looking for some Christian literature that can help me grow and learn as a young woman in Christ. Any suggestions?
Hi love, Well the Bible is a great place to start! I always like to encourage people not to be dependent on hearsay or someone else’s account of God, because just reading books written about God won’t feed you the way the one written BY Him will. Aside from that, Max Lucado is great all-round. Christine Caine and Lisa Bevere too. And my current fave is Steven Furtick’s Crash the Chatterbox. Mark Batterson’s The Circle Maker changed my life. That being said, most of these aren’t targeted specifically towards women. I’m not a fan of feel-good chick flick ministry. I think too much of women’s ministry is focused on how to get a man, how to wait for a man, how to live with a man, or how to please a man as a good wife. We need less women of God consumed with finding their Boaz and more women…Continue reading
My trip back from Ghana this past Christmas was a nightmare – but one that turned out to be an important lesson. Don’t ask me why I thought two layovers was a smart thing to do, but I guess it was because as someone who enjoys traveling, the idea of stopping in a new country gives me butterflies. Needless to say that butterflies were the last thing in my stomach this time around. After an 8-hour flight to Copenhagen followed by a 12-hour layover – without a jacket, an outlet, or anywhere to sleep – and a delayed flight to NYC, I was exhausted. It was a Sunday and I had work the next morning (another mistake on my part lol), so on arrival at JFK, I rushed through customs trying to make my connection to Baltimore, after which I would have to take an hour-long and $40 uber ride…Continue reading
So my 5-year old niece broke my mirror last weekend. It all began when we got back from church and she asked for scrambled eggs. Now there is nothing more frustrating than trying to scramble eggs while a 5-year old stands beside you asking to help with things that will only prolong the scrambling process. So while I had already told her not to play with my stability ball (which she finds hilarious), frankly anything that kept her out of the way so I could cook was acceptable… for the moment. So there I was, multitasking between cooking these eggs and talking to her mom on the phone when I heard the crash. I immediately ran to my room to see her standing in my doorway with the red stability ball, tears welling up in her eyes, and my beautiful mirror lying on the floor beside her with a crack running straight…Continue reading
How do you overcome depression and suicidal thoughts. I’ve cried. That was my prayer because I couldn’t get the words out. I have no one to talk to. I don’t think anyone will understand what I’m going through. I am tired
Hey love, These questions are honestly always the hardest for me to answer. For one, I suffered (and sometimes still do suffer) from bouts of depression, and I know sometimes the words of people can be really empty in that state, and I never want to give people empty words. But here’s the advice I can give you, and I hope you will take it as coming from someone who understands what you’re going through and wants you to be healed and whole: 1. Ask for help. Depression and being suicidal are serious issues and if you are not in the state of mind to be in control of your own well-being, you need someone to do it for you. Whether that means calling 911 if you feel like you’re about to self harm (if you’re in the states and have that luxury), or telling a medical professional, or a…Continue reading
What was it like dating unbelievers/non-religious men? Would you do it again? And how do you stay motivated in terms of education and your faith?
Dating unbelievers: it was great while it lasted lol. I actually like all my exes/guys I dated (there aren’t that many of them). Some of them were unbelievers, others questioning believers. At the time my faith wasn’t really as much of a core part of who I am as it is now, so I never really viewed those relationships through the lens of my faith – at least not to as great of an extent as I do now. Would I do it now? No. And it’s tough sometimes, because I know some great guys. But for the life I’m trying to lead? Forget the celibacy and all that jazz – I’m talking about Purpose. You can’t fulfill your God-given purpose with someone who doesn’t believe in it or in Him. I’m talking about Legacy. What will your kids grow up believing? That Santa and the Easter Bunny are the…Continue reading
I am an (un)certified product junkie, and it doesn’t help that some of my closest friends are the same. We are always swapping advice and ideas about what the best new products are, what eyeliner to use for the best wing, and which powder is the best for baking. But our most important discussions always center around what the best foundation is because… well, it’s the foundation. It sets the precedence for everything else! Now, there are different kinds of foundation – powder, liquid, cream, powder-to-cream, etc, etc – but I generally gravitate towards the liquid end of that spectrum. Liquid is easier to manipulate when it comes to coverage (light to full, depending on your preference), and a good water-based foundation will work with even the oiliest of skins. I’m no makeup guru, but with advice from some of the ones in my life and my own testing skills,…Continue reading
As humans we have the tendency to look outwards when we face trouble of some sort of the other – we look to assign blame to others in order to heal our own wounds. Friends who lie to us, family who hurt us, the devil – anyone other than ourselves can pretty much shoulder the guilt for what we feel inside. Because so long as we are not the ones to blame, we can move on without really having to address the possibility that it’s something in us that is wrong. That something in us was perhaps broken somewhere that needs to be mended – or that perhaps we are the perpetrators of our own pain, that we are our own victims. Perhaps we have been walking around while bleeding internally from one incident or the other, and these open wounds are causing us more external complications than we could…Continue reading