Since we’re on the topic of freedom, I thought I’d be amiss if I didn’t tell you about my own struggle with insecurity – or at least one of them. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t overly preoccupied with the way I looked. It just seemed that everywhere I went people were continuously pointing out the ways in which I differed from everyone else.I was either too skinny, or too fat, or too tall. My cheeks were too big, and my clothes never fit right. I’d spend hours searching the World Wide Web for ways to get the awful and ginormous birthmark off of my face (we didn’t have google back then lol), and began to dislike the shade of my skin as my family made fun of how I was too dark – the literal black sheep of the family. I was always plagued by the thought that I never looked…Continue reading
So I’m in that post degree space where I’m done, waiting for my results/to start work, have NO money and I just don’t know what to do with myself? Trying to get out of bed every morning and not have those over extended super late nights and very long lie in’s that people with lots of spare time slip into but I have to keep it real, I’m SO. B O R E D. And I know it’s a dangerous place for me spiritually to lapse into sin. Just wondering if you can think of productive things I can do to pass time?
Hey Love, I was where you are! There are three things I do in those idle seasons of ‘in-between’: 1. Work out. No better time to get fit than when you have the time to commit to it. Start running, do some at-home workouts. It creates a level of discipline in you that helps you withstand other temptations as well. 2. Watch sermons. Read your Bible. Get fed. There will be times in your life where you will be busy and find it difficult to get fed. This is the time to store up for the ‘winter’. Get to know God deeper than you ever have, so that in the times when you don’t hear Him as clearly as you’d like to, you have something to live off of. 3. Pour out. My friend Etornam said this once and the truth of it has stuck with me ever since: there is nothing…Continue reading
And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed or embarrassed. Genesis 2:25 The story of Adam and Eve is pretty well-known: God gives instruction, serpent tricks woman into disobeying instruction, woman eats apple and hands it over to man, God finds them red-handed, man is doomed for all of eternity. Aaaaand SCENE. The story continues that Adam and Eve on realizing their nakedness and hearing God calling for them, they hid in the Garden – as if the Omniscient, Omnipresent, Omnipotent God didn’t already know what they had done or where exactly they were hiding. But the Bible says something interesting happened before they did: Then the eyes of the two of them were opened [that is, their awareness increased], and they knew that they were naked; and they fastened fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. Adam and Eve went from being naked and…Continue reading
I’m bad at hearing God speak I think. Everyone says listen . He’s there. You’ll hear him. But I can’t seem to! Look, I’ve been praying and asking God to speak to me. But I can’t hear Him. What do I have to do? It’s so frustrating. And I’m bad at picking up signs . So if it’s through a book or person . Maybe I’ve missed it. Can’t he appear in a dream? Why is there this barrier? Why can’t I hear Him.
Well love, first off, know that God is always speaking. We’re either not listening or don’t know how to tune in. If I gave you a radio but you didn’t know how to turn it on or how to tune into the station you wanted to listen to, doesn’t mean you or the radio is broken. It just means you need a little more information 🙂 The first step to hearing God is to understand what He ‘sounds’ like. You have to recognize His ‘voice’. ‘Hearing’ God isn’t always what you think. Hearing isn’t always an audible voice – actually it rarely is. Hearing God can be that feeling of peace about a decision. it can be an open door – or a closed one. It can be a dream, vision, deep-seated intuition, divine understanding and instinct. I always refer people to a book my pastor wrote – Contact: The…Continue reading
Hi . This might seem like a very weird question. But is there anywhere in the bible that talks about “if someone wants to be there for you, you don’t have to force or try for their attention?” I’m asking this because, I and my be are going through a rough stage. He asked for space for awhile. And promised to be back. He’s going through some stuff and wants to be alone. But gave me his word and assurance that he was coming right back for me. Now here’s the issue, I believe he’s the one for meand I admit I might have pushed him farther away with my constant nagging . I have apologised and shown how truly sorry I am. But he wants space for now. So I’m doing the only thing I believe works. Praying. I’ve been praying like crazy, because this is whom I really want to spend the rest of my life with. I’m not growing any younger. I’m 25. But the more I pray, doubt creeps in . And then human logic where I start thinking about all these quotes and sayings from “relationship experts” talking about you can’t force someone to be with you bla bla. You know the quotes I’m talking about. So I am just trying to find out from someone who knows the bible pretty well, if there’s anywhere in the bible that talks about forcing yourself on people. This kind of stuff. Because deep down I believe God doesn’t work with what people have said. He does the uncommon. Unexplainable. So I’m trusting Him. But I just need to know if there’s anywhere in the bible that talks about that, maybe so I feel a lot better when praying and not to feel like those relationship experts are actually right. I’m just praying for a miracle. Divine intervention. Anything. I’ve never been so sure about anything . But there’s that little voice that keeps saying, you are wasting your time. He’s not coming back. 😪
Hey Love, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Relationships can be one heck of an emotional roller coaster. As I read your question this verse popped in my head from Song of Solomon 8:4: Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right. There is a time for everything. And even if you know in your heart of hearts that it is meant to be, doesn’t mean it’s the right time. When it comes to God and trust and timing, you have to constantly be in chill mode. You have to learn to hold on to things loosely. Maybe he is the one for you – but maybe God knows that if He let you continue together at this point in your lives you’ll destroy it before it can ever bloom into what He has planned. Maybe there is a work He needs…Continue reading
Guuuuuuuuuuuys!!!! Summer is heeeeere! School is out and work is winding down and everyone is planning vacations – including myself – and there’s a bunch of stuff I’m looking forward to trying out, places I want to go, and things I want to do! So I thought to myself – why not come up with a Summer Bucket List?!! So here it is, my bucket list that’ll kick off June 1st – feel free to join in by hashtagging #SSSummer16. I’m going to try and do as many of these as possible – some more than twice! Take a boat ride Travel outside your city Watch a sunrise Eat a vegan meal Pull a prayer all-nighter Ride a rollercoaster Go to/host a BBQ Bake something new Go to the market Have a picnic Go swimming Ride a bike Go hiking Take a roadtrip to eat something different Read 5 books Make…Continue reading
I don’t eat fast food that often. but on the rarest occasion that I do go to McDonalds (it’s almost unavoidable on a road trip), I order my usual Number 1: A medium-sized Big Mac Meal. I have been to McDonalds in America, France and London, and a Number 1 was pretty much universal to me. The menus across the three countries, while a little different in branding, pretty much remained the same. And then I stepped into a McDonalds in Mumbai where a Number 1 was most certainly not a Big Mac. “We don’t serve Big Macs here.” I was told. My eyes scanned the menu overhead. Mc Aloo Tikka. McVeggie. McSpicy Paneer. McEgg. Spicy Masala Chicken. But no Big Mac. In fact the only thing that resembled or sounded like anything I’d seen elsewhere was their Filet-o-fish and theirMcChicken. Everything else was foreign. Foreign to ME. But not at all to its most frequent customers. While my…Continue reading
A slave is a transient, who can’t come and go at will. The Son, though, has an established position, the run of the house. So if the Son sets you free, you are free through and through. (John 8:34-36) Don’t you hate that Voice? I’m sure you know the Voice I’m talking about. It’s almost impossible to miss: It’s the Voice that greets you in the morning, reminding you of all the things that went wrong the day before and how the day ahead is only going to be worse. The Voice that pipes up in that conference meeting telling you to pipe down because you are shy and you don’t actually have anything of value to contribute. It’s that Voice that points out all the things that are ‘wrong’ with you when you look in the mirror and tells you you will never be pretty enough or thin enough…Continue reading