• Eudora posted an update 1 year, 6 months ago

    Discussion topic for you all this week: how do we do relationships well? I don’t know about you, but I am personally the queen of pettiness and although I am super nice 95% of the time, the other 5% of the time I am plotting my slow revenge lol. This is definitely something I feel God actively challenging me on – to stop plotting how to One-up people when they do something I don’t like, or finding the one things I know will hurt or frustrate them as much as they’ve hurt or frustrated me. What are some of the things you do when your petty alter ego rears its ugly head?

    • It’s not easy because there’s something about being hurt that makes us all want to be recklessly revengeful. Sometimes I’m SO petty I can’t even recognize myself in the moment. We hear of people who go all the way to plot acid attacks on their BEST friends and we are surprised or think they took it too far. I don’t think they behaved in this evil manner out of nowhere. I believe its unchecked hurt that brews until it gets really ugly. I know that if I keep plotting, I will end up executing on a bad day. We need to develop self-control and it’s so so important. As a man thinketh, so is he. I’m learning to check those thoughts real quick before I get out of hand. It’s been a gradual process, but so far, it’s working for me. Talking to the other person to explain why I’m hurt also helps, and if we’re honest with ourselves, more often that not, people hurt us unintentionally. Once we accept that, it’s easy to forgive and keep it moving!