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Hey Eudora, I have a shameful problem and trying my best to stop but I can’t is there anyway you have any help for me based on God and ways I could stop. My problem is lying. 😔

Hello love! I think the first thing you need to do is give yourself a pat on the back for recognizing that you have that problem at all! It takes a lot of guts to not only admit our flaws, but also want to refine them. I believe most flaws – including lying – stem from a lie… And that lie is usually one of inadequacy. A feeling of not being enough and so needing to make up stories or fabricate things in order to meet some standard or fit in or feel worthy (please correct me if this isn’t the case for you!). Because issues like lying stem from a need to live up to expectations and standards, you’re never going to get past it if you don’t figure out what lie of inadequacy you’re believing in your own lie and dispel that with the truth Of God. He…

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Hello Eudora. Please what is your opinion about churches that publicly announce and ostracize members who are’ unrepentant sinners’? Like those who get pregnant outside marriage or continuously fornicate?

I have to admit that I was quite surprised to be asked this question because the answer is pretty clear that an act like that directly contradicts the heart of God and you cannot claim to be a child of God if you give yourself the authority to decide who is worthy and unworthy of being in God’s presence. I’m confused why I was asked this because I’m actually not quite sure what other opinion I could possibly have lol

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What if there’s no one for me out there? I’m 25, a medical doctor and I still cannot boast of a relationship where I felt absolutely loved. One of my exes raped me, the recent one left because we have different views about God. I mean, will I ever catch a break?!

I’m so sorry you had to go through all that love, but you WILL! You will catch something much better than a break! There IS someone out there for you.  Way I see it, you are blessed – medical doctor at 25??? I’m turning 26 and I can barely do my own laundry let alone save a life. You’re already winning at life. And your life is far from over! Focus on yourself, on what God is doing with you and in you as an individual. Even as you are waiting for a man, a man out there is waiting for you, but you have to be the woman he needs. You can’t want a prayer warrior if you can’t pray for more than 2 minutes, or a patient man if you fly off the bat about everything. Let God use this season to mold you into the woman you…

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Do you ever feel like you’ll never find a man who is willing to wait until after marriage to have sex? Because I know I do. :(

That one is not my business oh lol I’m not looking for a man so I don’t have to worry about finding one who suits my needs. I stay focused on whatever God is asking me to do and in community centered around Him. When the time is right, he’ll pop up. That is God’s job, not mine. I just gotta be visible.  But I think the fear you have isn’t irrational. It’s a fear I’ve had before. I think it stems from, 1, the fact that men don’t openly talk about if they’re abstaining or not, and 2, we hang around/are interested in the wrong men. I know DOZENS and DOZENS of men who are virgins/celibate. But of course we are all looking for virgin Idris Elba, so we find ourselves disappointed lol. We want the bad boy, but we want him to be good. I don’t know what’s…

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Hello Eudora! I thought I sent this earlier but I guess I didn’t. I have had a pretty reckless sex life since I was raped at 21. I remember it happening to me as a child too. I’m 24 now and I’m terrified to have an HIV test done,please pray for me.

Hello Love, I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. No one should ever have to endure the experience or the stigma or emotional trauma that comes with that. Every time I hear a story like this it reminds me just how oblivious a lot of us can be to these issues simply because we haven’t been victims of them, and reminds me just how real they are. Thank you for sharing that. I also applaud you for recognizing the correlation between your abuse and your sex life thereafter. It takes a lot of courage and reflection to recognize those after-effects for what they are, and it is definitely the first step in healing and moving past them. I grew up being so scared of HIV. I don’t know who thought it was a good idea to teach a bunch of 6th graders so much…

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Can I say i’m so jealous of you and your life? In fact I’m jealous of anyone who has their life put together. Here I am with a sad life. Friends always rush to tell me good news, like I’m genuinely happy for them every time But when I’m alone all I do is cry. I used to be the smartest person in class receiving awards and now I can’t even get a job, not even Mickey d’s replied me. And all my parents do is nag, ‘we didn’t pay all this tuition for you to turn out like this’. I feel like God doesn’t exist :(

Darling, Don’t be fooled by outward appearances. A lot of people who ‘seem’ to have their lives together are struggling with the best of us. No one’s life is all ‘put together’, not even mine. If you judge and measure your own success or happiness by others’ outward appearances, you’ll live believing a running lie. Don’t do it! What you see here, what you see in my life in particular? It’s not perfection. It’s not having everything together. What I have is Stubborn Joy. Stubborn Joy says, even though everything is not going the way I planned it, even though I am not where I want to be (which I think I mention quite a bit), I trust and understand that there is a purpose. I understand that every season serves a purpose. I trust that if I have banged on every door and nothing has availed, it’s because where…

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What are your thoughts on celibacy?

I think I’ve touched on my views of celibacy here and there, but I probably haven’t ever explicitly stated what they are. What does celibacy look like? Well it differs from person to person. I’ve seen couples who don’t even hold hands before marriage. Yes, that may seem crazy to you and me, but the Bible says if your right arm causes you to sin, chop it off, because it’s useless to you. When deciding to be celibate, you have to analyze yourself, look at past experiences, and learn from the habits/wrong choices that caused you to get into sexual situations. If you wanted to bone your ex every time he/she held your hand, then yea- Maybe you shouldn’t hold hands lol. If being alone with a guy or girl always led to something, make sure you’re alone together as little as possible. If the moment you kissed, hands started…

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Could you get a help me with some bible chapters or verses About how to get over a guy you really really need to get over? Lol. Okay memory verses about loneliness will do I think

I actually laughed out loud when I read this. Girl, the age old struggle of getting over someone. I am so skilled in this art – maybe even TOO skilled haha. I haven’t been in too many relationships but I am the girl who is in a committed relationship with you in my mind and you don’t even know it, so I’ve had a lot of pseudo breakups and opportunities to have to get over people LOL. But here’s the best advice I can give you: Nine times out of ten, it’s not you, it’s God. We come out of bad breakups feeling alone and like something is wrong with us – but when you are positioning yourself with the will of God, some things will just naturally fall away and be beyond your control. Some things you will have to let go of yourself to make room for God….

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