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Ask Slayed & Saved: “Questioning My Faith”

Hello! First, I am so excited to have found your blog – it is a breath of fresh air in my life   I am having major issues in my walk with God. I’ve begun to question him and everything surrounding Christianity and I do not want to. I find myself resenting the thought of giving thanks and praise to God, because my mind keeps saying ‘he is wicked; he watches innocent people be killed and die every day, he is going to let some of his children who did not even have the opportunity to know him go to hell, how could this be a loving God worthy of praise?’ That sort of thing. I dislike this a lot and it is seriously tormenting me. I want to love God and I want to be able to be strong in my faith but I just…can’t. What’s your take on this?…

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Ask Slayed & Saved: “Questions”

Hi. First of all,let me just say that I am glad I was told about this blog. It has helped me accept certain things I struggled to accept when I started taking my relationship with Christ seriously. Now to why my title is ‘questions’ . I know you don’t have all the answers and I probably should be asking God but I feel like He doesn’t hear me when I talk to him albeit I don’t always do the talking.  I try but whenever I decide to seriously take time off and pray something comes up to distract me and I’m left rushing through a prayer and going on with my day. Either that or I start sleeping. So my first question is How do I hear God amidst the noisy and busy schedule I have and how do I pray effectively.. If there’s such a thing. So I’ve been…

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Letter: God’s not dead, He’s not crazy either.

Sometimes when God tells us something, we think He’s crazy. I’ve had an absolutely crazy year and at the very beginning of 2016 when things seemed to be getting worse, I started getting panic attacks. I would wake up with my heart racing & I would cry and hyperventilate. One morning I was crying & hyperventilating so hard I thought there was no way I would make it to work. Then I heard a small voice say, “Call Eudora”. I shook my head & told myself “No, how can I call Eudora? I mean we’re friends but we’re not that close, I don’t think I’ve even called her before, besides it’s 7am what am I going to say when she answers?, What if she doesn’t answer, what do I tell her later?”. Every excuse came rushing to my head at once and I convinced myself not to make the phone…

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How Do I Read the Bible?

Hi, I don’t know how to read my bible. I do devotionals that reference bible verses but I want to actually read the Bible. Where do I start? Hey love! There are a lot of different ways to read the Bible, but Devotionals are a great place to start. I’d suggest starting off by reading for context. So when you read those Bible verses that come with the devotionals, read the entire chapter as well. Figure out what exactly the writer wanted to say. The second way I’d suggest reading it is chronologically – at the beginning. There’s a reason the Bible is in the order it’s in – it tells a story. So start at the beginning and work your way through to the end. And before you open it each time, pray. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring the words alive to you in ways you never imagined….

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Where Is My Fire?

Hi, I don’t know whether this is really a question but I just wanted to share. All my life I have been the best student, everyone saw me as someone who was going somewhere and would do great things, more importantly I saw myself as that. I felt I had a purpose. Later on, I wasn’t able to go to the uni I wanted and ever since then my life has been on a downward spiral. From the outside, I like normal but I am suffering from a deep depression. I have considered suicide many times, I feel no enthusiasm for anything in life, I have gained so much weight, I have stopped working out I have just given up on life. I have tried in the past to change my life but it feels like nothing changes. Frankly I just want to give up, I feel like a leaf…

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Hey, okay from where I’m from. Looks like everyone around me is okay with mediocrity. And I am not. I want to do more and be better. And break free from that. I believe I can be much better and do much better. Recently I wrote an exam for a very reputable multinational firm in Ghana. The exams was very difficult. Very. I saw people around me give up. But I still did what I could. Everyone of my friends made it through except me. I was very heartbroken because this opportunity was going to open many doors for me. Financially and academically. I kept crying and didn’t understand why. I’ve always thought I wasn’t smart enough. But God has always come through for me.So when I didn’t make it, I went on my knees and kept praying. Even though the process was over. A friend of mine who happens to work in the organization. Told his boss about me. And the boss just asked for my name and said he would help me. He will push me through to the next stage so I prove my worth. I was excited and all. But then I started feeling someway. Like was it right. Why am I using protocol. Isn’t that bad.? Some part of me is telling me that it’s God that has opened this particular door for me. Because he knew the exam wouldn’t favor me. Another part is telling me that it’s wrong. And that’s nepotism. Mind you, I didn’t ask for this. I was even surprised when his boss called and asked for my details. He is one of the senior managers there . What do you think? I’m confused.

Hey love. I completely understand where you stand. Two things jumped out at me as I read what you shared: First, that you may perhaps have a very narrow view of success, and second, that favor is not fair. You say everyone around you is okay with mediocrity – but how is it that you define mediocrity? What is success? Working for a multinational firm? Take it from me personally: what will completely destroy you, your relationships, and your faith in the world we live in today is falling into the trap of having a one-sided view of success, or assuming that because you or others do not fall into this successful box the world has created, then you or they are failures. The only mediocre life is one that is outside the will and plan of God. If you are functioning in your purpose – whether it’s working for…

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I’m entering my final year of university and I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I also have very little experience. I’ve been asking God for my calling, what I should do and where I should go, but I am lost. I don’t have a job atm and I feel like a failure. I know God says otherwise but I just feel down. Help please :(

Darling, you could have 15 years of experience and still not know what you want to do. And you’re never really going to know until you actually try something. But here’s my advice: 1. Start with your passions. Those are from God. They’re already put inside you. Figure out what they are. 2. Ask questions. Ask people who studied what you did, or are passionate about the things you are and made a career out of them, how they did it. Network. Email people you know and ask them to connect you with people they know in those fields. ASK QUESTIONS. INVESTIGATE. Understand that it’s OK not to know, but you will hurt yourself more by not seeking counsel from those who do than you ever will by not knowing. 3. Do research – where did people who studied what you do go on to? Do any of those things…

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So I’m in that post degree space where I’m done, waiting for my results/to start work, have NO money and I just don’t know what to do with myself? Trying to get out of bed every morning and not have those over extended super late nights and very long lie in’s that people with lots of spare time slip into but I have to keep it real, I’m SO. B O R E D. And I know it’s a dangerous place for me spiritually to lapse into sin. Just wondering if you can think of productive things I can do to pass time?

Hey Love, I was where you are! There are three things I do in those idle seasons of ‘in-between’: 1. Work out. No better time to get fit than when you have the time to commit to it. Start running, do some at-home workouts. It creates a level of discipline in you that helps you withstand other temptations as well. 2. Watch sermons. Read your Bible. Get fed. There will be times in your life where you will be busy and find it difficult to get fed. This is the time to store up for the ‘winter’.  Get to know God deeper than you ever have, so that in the times when you don’t hear Him as clearly as you’d like to, you have something to live off of. 3. Pour out. My friend Etornam said this once and the truth of it has stuck with me ever since: there is nothing…

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