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When Are You getting Married?

I finally got asked. I thought I could escape the question for a while more – being the last-but-one grandchild on my Father’s side and all. My aunties had other plans. “So… when are you also getting married?” “Who me? I have been asking myself the same question. I’ll let you know when I figure out the answer!” I reply sarcastically. “So there’s no one special?” “Nope.” “Do you want me to introduce you to some people?” “Nooooope!” “Then that means there must be someone you have in mind!” “Errrr…. no. Not actually.” *Ghanaian aunty face of disbelief*  I have to admit, her logic was socially sound. If I don’t have a man, and I’m not looking for a man, then there must be a man in mind, right??  Wrong.  My own response kind of surprised me though! I used to be what my sister calls a ‘serial relationshipist’. Out one relationship,…

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The Missing Peace

How easy is it to lose your peace in this world???? There was a point in my life that I could actually never find mine – my family, friends (and exes) will testify to this lol. Moving back to the States on my own and living as a college student solely reliant on financial  aid and three part-time jobs to provide for myself, I was in a constant state of worry. Would I have enough to eat? Would I have enough to go home over break? Would I have enough to survive the winter??? Sometimes there was enough, but other times there was barely enough to go around. I spent a lot of time counting my pennies and running in circles about money. Then there was school. I think nine times out of ten that I took an exam, I called my father crying in fear that I had failed. I…

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Just a Few Thoughts I Had Today…

A lot of women (myself/ past self included) have sex before they’re actually ready and outside of the context of marriage because we have fallen prey to the cultural norm that relationships=sex. Like, if you have a man, you have to have sex to please/keep him or maintain the relationship. Like there can be no relationship without sex. Somehow sex has become synonymous with commitment. It’s such a lie. A lot of men get into relationships not because they actually want one or are ready for it but because relationships give them a pseudo-legitimate avenue to regular sex. Think about it: you can either hustle around every weekend hoping it will ‘tomu’ with some chick you meet and score for the night, or you can tell some girl ‘I love you’ and have a steady supply any time you feel like it – and THEN some on the side. Sex…

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Five Ideas Christians Need To Rethink

I’ve been in massive hibernation mode for the past few weeks, trying to do less of me and more of God. That means, spending a lot more time listening for what He has to say about every single situation instead of seeking Him after-the-fact.  I had this random epiphany on Monday about how we can fall into the habit of taking the Bible out of context to fit our own needs; and so I got to thinking: what are some Bible verses or ‘ideas’ that I have taken out of context in my own life that I could share now that I know better?  Here are five of them:  1. God will not give us more than we can bear.  I think I got this idea from a Kirk Franklin song I grew up with: More Than I Can Bear. While the song HAS walked me through more storms than…

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Dealing With Difficult People

C’mon – you know you know at least one of them. Whether it’s that person in your class project group who always criticizes your input (and never constructively), or that coworker who’s always trying to pull you into gossip, or that boss who works you into the ground without so much as an ounce of gratitude, or that colleague who always chastises your beliefs, or even that friend that betrays you again and again no matter how faithful or supportive you are – we have ALL had to deal with difficult people in our lives. The most annoying thing about difficult people is that they will be difficult whether you merit it or not. You can work hard, do all the right things, say all the right words, and put in the work, but they will always have something negative or challenging to say about you and/or the things you do….

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Still Fighting Temptations…

When we last met (or when I last wrote) we were in the desert with Jesus as he prepared for an encounter with the devil by fasting forty days and forty nights. We learnt he did this because he knew the winning strategy – that winning wasn’t about getting stronger in our own strength and ability, but getting weaker so God can get stronger through us… So here we are, the fasting period is over, and Jesus is starving. I’m talking EXTREME hunger. I can’t even begin to imagine his level of hunger after 40 days, because I just woke up an hour ago and I’m already starving.  40 days in and I’d probably be ingesting sand, so I think it’s safe to assume that Jesus was ready to have a meal. Cue the devil, who always shows up at our most vulnerable to try to take advantage of us: “Since you’re the Son…

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Fighting Temptations

Arthur Ashe, a renowned tennis player from the pre-Williams era, once said:  “One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”  And it makes sense, right? If you want to succeed at anything, you have to prepare – to get better or stronger or faster. I don’t have much experience in sporting of any kind (I always tell people I have the hand-to-eye coordination of a bat), but I’m guessing that before any competition, players or sportsmen put a lot of time and effort into strengthening themselves and improving their abilities so they can set themselves up for success.  Crazy, isn’t it, that Jesus did exactly the opposite?! In Matthew 4, after Jesus gets baptized by John, he heads into the wilderness: Next Jesus was taken into the wild by the Spirit for the Test. The Devil was ready to give it. Jesus prepared for the Test…

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Whether You Like It Or Not

People think I’m crazy when I tell them I wake up between 4:30 and 5am every weekday morning (and most weekends too). My regular routine once I’m up consists of about an hour of quiet time, going to the gym for another hour/hour and a half, and then getting ready for work. I don’t think I’m crazy at all! To be clear, I don’t LIKE waking up at 4:30 every morning. I have a very comfortable bed, and I would spend the whole day sleeping in it if I could.  I don’t always LIKE going to the gym, and many days I have to drag myself out of bed to make it. I don’t always FEEL like praying or reading my Bible. But you know what? I do it because I understand that what I like or don’t like can often be inconsequential to what is good for me. I do this…

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