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Welcome to Slayed & Saved!

I have been pouring over my keyboard for the past week trying to decide what my first ‘official’ Slayed & Saved post would be about: I thought about writing a piece on the joy of Easter and Jesus’ resurrection, but circumstances made it so that I wasn’t exactly feeling joyful this Easter. I contemplated writing about more of my favorite go-to products – but the photos I took of them weren’t perfect enough. I thought about working on a piece about my favorite spring outfits, but frankly, I’m bloated, my face is chock-full of PMS zits, and I feel like the last person you want to see sporting a floral one-piece lol. If I’m being all the way honest, I really didn’t want to write at all. I haven’t felt like writing in a long while – and that’s saying something because writing really is the only thing I love…

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Under Review

There is a certain time of year that anyone who has ever been employed before has come to both fear and dread – and no, I’m not talking about tax season. What I’m talking about is the age-old performance review. Yes, I DID see you grimace just then. I am yet to meet a single human being who enjoys performance reviews. Now, I could go into the psychology of them and point out all the ways they are truly inaccurate and a horrible measure of capability or competence, but even without trekking down that path, they still remain pretty awful. I don’t know about you, but the thought of having to justify to people why I am qualified for the position I was hired for, and about all the ways I intend to grow over the next period (like I can even make a definitive decision on what I’m having for dinner!),…

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On Days Like This…

Some days, I feel less than saved. On these days I get frustrated by people, and want to say snarky things to annoy them as much as they’re annoying me. I even go as far as taking a friend’s advice and googling “How To Slap A Short Person.” But on days like this, I feel my spirit warring within me On days like this, even though I FEEL less than saved, I thank God that I am, Because I can’t imagine the type of person I would be if I didn’t feel an internal opposition when I’m in the wrong, If I didn’t feel all kinds of unrest when every bone inside of me wanted to give in to the temptation to jump off. On days like this I realize just how very weak I am, And how much His strength can be made perfect in me.  

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Here’s to 7 out of 77…

What Lie Are You Believing? What false report? What words of negativity were spoken over your life that have taken root in your heart and sprouted seeds of doubt and fear without you even knowing it? Seeds that started off as tiny shoots but have grown to be a field of weeds in which nothing good can grow? In which the promises of God just can’t take root? We all have them, but to be honest, I didn’t think I had any till yesterday when God showed me just how much a single statement had made me a slave to a spirit of worthlessness – a slave to the same lie the enemy has used since Adam: ‘you are not enough’. It was a statement that was said supposedly to help me, but more likely to strike me. It cut so deep that over a year later I am still experiencing…

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When Are You getting Married?

I finally got asked. I thought I could escape the question for a while more – being the last-but-one grandchild on my Father’s side and all. My aunties had other plans. “So… when are you also getting married?” “Who me? I have been asking myself the same question. I’ll let you know when I figure out the answer!” I reply sarcastically. “So there’s no one special?” “Nope.” “Do you want me to introduce you to some people?” “Nooooope!” “Then that means there must be someone you have in mind!” “Errrr…. no. Not actually.” *Ghanaian aunty face of disbelief*  I have to admit, her logic was socially sound. If I don’t have a man, and I’m not looking for a man, then there must be a man in mind, right??  Wrong.  My own response kind of surprised me though! I used to be what my sister calls a ‘serial relationshipist’. Out one relationship,…

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Just a Few Thoughts I Had Today…

A lot of women (myself/ past self included) have sex before they’re actually ready and outside of the context of marriage because we have fallen prey to the cultural norm that relationships=sex. Like, if you have a man, you have to have sex to please/keep him or maintain the relationship. Like there can be no relationship without sex. Somehow sex has become synonymous with commitment. It’s such a lie. A lot of men get into relationships not because they actually want one or are ready for it but because relationships give them a pseudo-legitimate avenue to regular sex. Think about it: you can either hustle around every weekend hoping it will ‘tomu’ with some chick you meet and score for the night, or you can tell some girl ‘I love you’ and have a steady supply any time you feel like it – and THEN some on the side. Sex…

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I’m only realizing just how much social media is a tool for self validation for people. And it’s not just a ‘I want to be popular’ thing – we can become dependent on others’ responses to us (whether bad or good) to actually survive. Like, we say and do and post the right (or wrong) things to get a response that sustains us in some way. We might guise it as ‘self expression’ but we only deceive ourselves. We are only feeding off of the reactions of others, and that type of validation is so so empty. It doesn’t last.

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The Build-A-Man Workshop

Welcome, Ladies, to the Build-A-Man Workshop – where you can create your Perfect Man simply with the click of a few buttons! Let me tell you how it works: First,  our state-of-the-art Man Generator will ask you a series of questions to ascertain what it is you want your Man to look like. Green eyes? Long hair? Maybe you’re into man buns? Beards? Do you want him six-foot-four, athletic build, and with a dashing smile? We’ve got you covered!  Next, tell us what attributes you want in a man – you name it, we can make it. Faithfulness and Kindness are our top picks, but we also offer Generosity, Sense of Humor, Passion, Confidence (with a dash of Cockiness), Dependability, among many, many others.  Of course, what would your Perfect Man be without his accessories? A six-figure job, a 2016 Porsche, a royal lineage, and good taste in clothing are just a few…

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