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Why Bad Things Happen to Good People.

I have never been short on words. If you’ve ever read one of my IG captions, one of my blog posts, or had a text conversation with me, you’d know this. If I was granted a role in the Marvel Universe, my power would most certainly be talking people to death. But all jokes aside, words have always come easy and plentiful to me. And I have always – some way, some how – had the right ones to say. I’m one of those people who seems to have the right answer to everything. Ask me a question, and I can either offer you a viable answer, or something intelligible enough that I don’t seem absolutely clueless, but also vague enough that you don’t go off and quote me. But you’ll always get an answer that both you and I am satisfied with mostly because I’m a pensive person who…

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Why I’m No Longer Waiting Till Marriage

As a young lady I always fantasized about the day someone would come and sweep me off my feet. I pictured myself falling head-over-heels in love with a tall, dark, handsome, God-fearing man, who would one day get down on one knee and profess his unending love for me. Then the scene would fast-forward to some elaborate wedding, with me in a perfectly-cut low-back white lace dress draped over my perfectly 12-month gym-toned body, and us dancing the night away like we were the only ones in the room. Then we’d steal away into the night while our guests danced on none the wiser, rushing back to our candlelit honeymoon suite to be together for the very first time… I’m sorry, I can’t even type this with a straight face. Albeit the reality that my marriage will probably be consummated in some back room while the reception is only just…

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Setting Intentions

I always like to start off my year thinking about how I can better set myself up for success in the days ahead – I think we all do. But more than the physical/financial/entrepreneurial/career goals we outline, I like to spend more time thinking about what I want to change internally – in my heart and mind – than I do about what I want to change externally. One of my themes for this year is ‘New Wine’ stemming from Jesus’ conversation with his disciples in the gospels: And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. Otherwise, the wine will burst the skins, and both the wine and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins.” Mark 2:22 What Jesus is referring to in this passage is the fact that the vessel determines the viability of what is deposited into it. You can pour…

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What to Do When You’re Having an Existential Crisis

Or a crisis of Faith. Call it what you want. As a Christian, a crisis of Faith can feel very much like an existential crisis. If we were created by God for His purpose, and for His worship, then lost faith in God means lost faith in our very reason for being. A low point when you begin to question the very foundations on which you have built your entire life and planned out your entire future cannot BE considered anything less than existential. Such an existential crisis can present itself in many forms. Most times in my life, those seasons of doubt have been led by seasons of great disappointment, when God didn’t come through for me like He said He would or like I thought He would. Other times they come when we feel like we have been giving God and people our everything and receiving very little in return….

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A Flower Isn’t Afraid to Bloom

I am the only woman in my family who drives, and it wasn’t until I turned twenty-four that I found the courage to get behind the wheel.  (Feel free to laugh, I won’t hold a grudge.) I can tell you the exact moment I began to fear navigating a vehicle. I must have been five or six, and my father was attempting to teach my mother how to drive. My sister and I sat in the back, excited at the prospect of soon having two parents to chauffeur us around. My father drove to a back road out in rural Maryland, got out of the driver’s seat and handed the wheel over to my mother. She must have driven all of twenty feet when she realized there were train tracks approaching. Immediately she hit the brakes and refused to move. My father assured her there was no train in sight,…

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Whose Dream Is It Anyway?

I can only ever remember wanting to be one thing as a little girl. Some children had been told by their parents that they would grow up to become doctors and surgeons, and so they spent their playtimes checking the health of their teddy bears with colorful stethoscopes, or dismembering Barbie to see whether or not they had the skills to put her back together. Others turned recess into an opportunity to play ‘house’, or donned tiaras hoping to find their Prince Charming. Not me, though. I was never impressed with the coveted doctor’s bag with the plastic scalpel. All I ever wanted to be was a dancer. Of course, this dream didn’t just materialize out of nowhere. It was borne from a cassette recording in which a pastor would stop in the middle of his sermon to prophesy about the little girl sitting on a woman’s lap. He told…

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A Time to Bloom…

If you’re active enough in the Pinterest realm, you’ve probably encountered this popular quote: Grow where you’re planted. It’s basically an admonishment; one that encourages us to see every place and stage in our lives – no matter how bad or unexpected – as an opportunity to learn and grow beyond our current standing. If you’ve been attending any millennial church consistently enough, you’ve probably heard a different version: You grow where you’re planted. The premise is pretty much the same. When you intentionally commit yourself wholeheartedly to a space or place, and develop roots there, you will find the sustenance you need to grow into a better version of yourself. Both versions are true. Both are valuable and applicable to our everyday lives. Both are essential to the Christian walk. But I have come to realize that neither will get you very far when it comes to maximizing your…

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The Pride Challenge

Joseph’s biggest problem in Genesis 37 really isn’t that he has jealous brothers… No, Joseph’s biggest problem is that he’s a braggart. Let’s take a closer look: Joseph’s story starts out by telling us a little bit about him: “The story continues with Joseph, seventeen years old at the time, helping out his brothers in herding the flocks. These were his half brothers actually, the sons of his father’s wives Bilhah and Zilpah. And Joseph brought his father bad reports on them.” A 17-year old tattle-tale? Already we can’t stand him. But oh, it gets worse: “Israel (Jacob) loved Joseph more than any of his other sons because he was the child of his old age. And he made him an elaborately embroidered coat. When his brothers realized that their father loved him more than them, they grew to hate him—they wouldn’t even speak to him.” So not only is…

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