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Eudora

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Hey, okay from where I’m from. Looks like everyone around me is okay with mediocrity. And I am not. I want to do more and be better. And break free from that. I believe I can be much better and do much better. Recently I wrote an exam for a very reputable multinational firm in Ghana. The exams was very difficult. Very. I saw people around me give up. But I still did what I could. Everyone of my friends made it through except me. I was very heartbroken because this opportunity was going to open many doors for me. Financially and academically. I kept crying and didn’t understand why. I’ve always thought I wasn’t smart enough. But God has always come through for me.So when I didn’t make it, I went on my knees and kept praying. Even though the process was over. A friend of mine who happens to work in the organization. Told his boss about me. And the boss just asked for my name and said he would help me. He will push me through to the next stage so I prove my worth. I was excited and all. But then I started feeling someway. Like was it right. Why am I using protocol. Isn’t that bad.? Some part of me is telling me that it’s God that has opened this particular door for me. Because he knew the exam wouldn’t favor me. Another part is telling me that it’s wrong. And that’s nepotism. Mind you, I didn’t ask for this. I was even surprised when his boss called and asked for my details. He is one of the senior managers there . What do you think? I’m confused.

Hey love. I completely understand where you stand. Two things jumped out at me as I read what you shared: First, that you may perhaps have a very narrow view of success, and second, that favor is not fair. You say everyone around you is okay with mediocrity – but how is it that you define mediocrity? What is success? Working for a multinational firm? Take it from me personally: what will completely destroy you, your relationships, and your faith in the world we live in today is falling into the trap of having a one-sided view of success, or assuming that because you or others do not fall into this successful box the world has created, then you or they are failures. The only mediocre life is one that is outside the will and plan of God. If you are functioning in your purpose – whether it’s working for…

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Living in Wonderland

I have always loved stories. I think it’s something I learnt from my sister. Her love for reading was the reason I learnt to at such a young age. By the time I was 5, I was reading books far beyond my years. Soon, she began to write her own stories because it was possible she had already read everything appropriate enough for her age (and then some, I’m sure). She’d spend days pouring over notebooks and writing elaborate tales, and I was always impressed with her ability to bring life to words. When I ended up in boarding school, I took up the mantle and began writing my own stories that served as a channel to the outside world – a way to escape what was going on around me and be in a world where I could create my own narratives and outcomes (this was the topic of the…

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Colorblind: When the Church Remains Silent

I don’t consider myself a particularly ‘politically-active’ person. While I have informed opinions on several socio-political issues, I am usually one to hold my peace until my opinion is relevant (which is not that often if I’m being all the way honest). And I will be transparent enough to admit that part of what plays into my ‘non-politicalness’ is my faith. I believe that while I am entitled to my opinion and to my feelings on an issue, God’s Word and heart trump my feelings and opinions every single time. So as a Christian who wears her faith on her sleeve, my first inclination when faced with a difficult issue is not to ignore my feelings or inclinations altogether, but to first and foremost to seek God’s heart and perspective and allow that to shape and guide my own. In the last two days two black men were gunned down and…

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For Freedom: Jenn’s Story

I thought I’d be amiss to wrap up this #ForFreedom series without another ‘S&S’ interview from another amazing person I have had the honor of doing life with and serving alongside for the past 2 years. The first real time we engaged was during a weekly early Friday morning prayer meeting, and I have watched both of us grow in service and in ministry and in our heart for all things Jesus ever since. Aside from Jesus we share an unhealthy addiction for Sephora, and a love for looking cute. For this conversation, we sat together in the back of a small tea shop for a good 5 hours, discussing everything from Jesus to relationships and style and, of course, our pursuit of freedom… So for those who don’t know, who is Jenn? That’s always been a hard question for me to answer because Jenn is never one person – I’m…

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25 Random Facts About Me

Hello! It just occurred to me the other day that many people probably have no idea who I am – and it probably doesn’t help that the ‘About Me’ page isn’t really about ME lol. It probably stems from the fact that I hate talking about myself/self-promotion (took me forever to jump on the hashtag bandwagon), but I think it’s only fair that you get to know more about me than the things I struggle with every day. So here it goes! I am 26 and the youngest of four kids. By far. My twin brothers and sister are a year apart, and I showed up 6 years later. I joked once to my father that I was clearly the ‘mistake baby’. He laughed and pointed out that I was also the favorite, so it all worked out lol. I am Ghanaian. Well, technically, I am American – but after spending…

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I’m entering my final year of university and I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I also have very little experience. I’ve been asking God for my calling, what I should do and where I should go, but I am lost. I don’t have a job atm and I feel like a failure. I know God says otherwise but I just feel down. Help please :(

Darling, you could have 15 years of experience and still not know what you want to do. And you’re never really going to know until you actually try something. But here’s my advice: 1. Start with your passions. Those are from God. They’re already put inside you. Figure out what they are. 2. Ask questions. Ask people who studied what you did, or are passionate about the things you are and made a career out of them, how they did it. Network. Email people you know and ask them to connect you with people they know in those fields. ASK QUESTIONS. INVESTIGATE. Understand that it’s OK not to know, but you will hurt yourself more by not seeking counsel from those who do than you ever will by not knowing. 3. Do research – where did people who studied what you do go on to? Do any of those things…

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The Thief of Joy

Someone asked me a few days ago about Joy. She had just accepted Christ into her life, and was wondering if it was possible that the Joy she felt in the aftermath of that single decision could last for ever. I wished with all my heart that I could tell her it would. There’s nothing worse than having to tell a new believer that this walk is not all rainbows and sunshine. In my mind I am inclined to spin it – to come up with creative ways to bypass the truth that the path we walk is a narrow one. But instead I told her the truth: in this life you will have to choose Joy. You will come to several crossroads where pain and fear and doubt and worry seem like the obvious choices – and you will have to choose Joy. After answering, I began to reflect on all…

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God Is Not Your Father

Your earthly father, that is. I’ve learnt that when we conceptualize our Heavenly Father, we often use our earthly fathers as a template: If your father was strict and restrictive, you see God as an authoritarian father, watching and measuring your every move by some unattainable standard. If he was loving and giving, you expect the same of your Heavenly Father: a never-ending vending machine of goodness. If your earthly Father was never around, or never cared, it’s hard to fathom that a Heavenly Father would be much different. At first I thought this father-Father comparison didn’t apply to me. I have an earthly father who is loving, somewhat strict, doesn’t give me everything I want, and always taught me who God is. But God showed me I was, in fact, no exception. Growing up, my father always placed precedence on me learning to be independent. He’d always be there…

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